He was feeling it all over again. Struggling to breathe, but he did not have much of a choice, or did he?

"Imagine being born and already being classified as a culprit who is most likely to commit sexual offenses. Men are already viewed negatively by society. The male child has an uphill battle ahead of him from the beginning in trying to change how people see him. The male child then grows and hits puberty. He learns about sex from the same men who are likely to be the perpetrators of sexual offenses. He is taught the way of the man so to speak. How highly men hold sex, it being the center of all their conversations, their world. Then come the girls, some of who take advantage of the male child's lowered esteem. In the eyes of the public, he is a sex-hungry individual who would be willing to indulge regardless. What then is he supposed to do when the societal lens is already biased? Talk? really! " 

Take these two scenarios, he accepts and indulges. To his peers, he is a hero, to the public, a sex-hungry individual taking advantage of the girl, is he though? In the second scenario he refuses, to his peers, he has failed as a man, he is weak, to the girl, he has destroyed her self-esteem, to the public, he is a hero. How then, is he expected to act with all these societal expectations of him? This then gives rise to toxic masculinity where men want to be the strongest of the sexes therefore to them, women are just puppets and objects.

Did she really deserve it? What is the point of being a modest female in a society which has zero to no respect for the woman's body? A society where men have a lot to say about women and how they are supposed to behave. Very many girls and women have experienced gender-based violence and sexual assault in their lives simply because men don't wanna hear a no from them. For some of them, it is their own opinion that matters and not that of their female counterpart. This explains the rise in sexual assault cases against women because men think they are entitled to their bodies. To answer the question, she did not deserve what was done to her. The overwhelming experience still haunts her to date. Her cries are still fresh in her mind and she is afraid to talk them out. Women are oversexualized and that is the prime cause of all this.

Who then is society? It's high time we bring the soft chaos, the kind that is not disrupting but loud enough to imprint a change. A paradox has already been established and for a young person simply trying to develop themselves, prone to mistakes, with the desire to experience life in its fullest form, only God knows our fate.

But then again, are we ready for this conversation?